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June 25-26, 2025
Whitefish, Montana
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We’re bringing together a small group of restoration business owners who just get it.
No lectures.
No PowerPoint slides.
No ego.
Just real talk about what’s working, what’s not, and what’s next.
We’ll have a few seasoned operators there to share battle-tested lessons, but this isn’t about speakers—it’s about conversations that challenge you to think bigger and build better.
- Bring your biggest struggles.
- Share what’s actually working in your business.
- Leave with clarity, connections, and energy to move forward.
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This weeks blog:
Running a restoration business with family sounds like a dream. Built-in trust. Shared values. A legacy to pass down.
But here’s the reality: if you don’t set clear expectations, family business can quietly kill your company.
This newsletter will break down exactly why family in business can become a liability, how to avoid the common traps, and what to do when tough decisions need to be made—even when they involve someone you love.
Restoration is a chaotic, high-stakes business. You need the right people in the right seats, every single time. But when family members underperform, refuse accountability, or create tension with the rest of your team, it doesn’t just hurt feelings—it hurts your margins, your morale, and your long-term growth.
Too many business owners confuse loyalty with leadership. They delay hard conversations, avoid accountability, and give passes to family members out of guilt or fear. In the process, they lose the respect of their team, their culture erodes, and the company suffers.
Family doesn’t guarantee performance. It often leads to entitlement.
What you’ll take away from this issue:
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Why family businesses often struggle with blurred lines and double standards
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The silent ways family loyalty can wreck your company culture
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A key question to ask when evaluating any family member on your team
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Practical steps for setting expectations, boundaries, and exit plans
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How to know when it’s time to let a family member go—and how to do it right
Let’s talk about the messy middle of family-run businesses.
You might’ve started your company with your brother, your dad, or your cousin. And in the early days, it made sense—who else could you trust to work 14-hour days and take the same risks you were taking? But as the business grows, what used to work starts falling apart.
The first problem?
Blurred lines.
Business and personal life start bleeding together. Family dinners become job site debriefs. Arguments over project delays carry into birthdays and barbecues. It’s exhausting—and unsustainable.
Then comes entitlement.
Your brother doesn’t follow the new SOPs. Your niece shows up late but never gets written up. Why? Because they’re family. But your non-family employees see it. They start resenting the double standard. They work hard, but promotions always go to someone with the right last name. That kind of favoritism kills culture—and it makes good people leave.
Accountability gets tossed out the window.
If your family member slacks off, who’s going to check them? Most owners don’t. They’re scared of causing a rift. So, they tolerate underperformance. But the longer you delay, the more your standards crumble.
Let’s be real—loyalty to family can tank your business if it’s not matched by performance. One business owner we worked with had his uncle running operations. Old-school guy. Refused to learn new systems. Kept doing things “his way” and dragging everyone down. But because he was family, no one held him accountable.
That’s the hidden danger of family-run businesses: people feel untouchable. They believe the business owes them something. And when decisions are made based on emotion instead of results, it’s your company that pays the price.
Here’s the myth: “Family means better employees.”
Nope.
Family doesn’t automatically mean commitment.
Some relatives join the business because they can’t find anything else. Others feel entitled to a paycheck. Few bring the passion and discipline your business truly needs.
So ask yourself this one question:
If this person wasn’t related to you, would you still keep them on payroll?
If the answer is “no,” you’ve got a problem that needs fixing.
How do you turn it around?
1. Set clear expectations.
Every family member needs a defined role and job description. No free passes. They should meet or exceed the same standards as anyone else—preferably higher.
2. Build real accountability.
You can’t hold your techs to one standard and let your cousin skate by. Create systems that track performance, behaviors, and outcomes. Make sure they apply to everyone.
3. Keep work and personal life separate.
Boundaries are critical. Don’t hash out payroll at Thanksgiving. Don’t turn Sunday dinner into a project review. Separate hats make for better relationships—and better results.
4. Have an exit plan.
Not every role works out—and that includes family. If someone can’t deliver, you need a clear and respectful path for moving them out. It’s better to have one hard conversation than to risk the entire company.
And when it’s time to let someone go?
Do it professionally.
Stick to facts.
Leave emotions out of it.
You’re not punishing them. You’re protecting your business, your team, and your legacy.
It might hurt in the short term, but clarity brings healing. And often, it can even save the relationship.
The best businesses aren’t built on bloodlines. They’re built on clarity, accountability, and leadership. Whether someone’s your cousin or a Craigslist hire—if they’re the right person in the right seat, great. If not, it’s your job to fix it.
We work with many husband/wife teams.
We work with many sibling owned businesses.
We work with family businesses of all types.
It can be complicated.
If you are struggling, or your company is struggling because of family matters, reach out. Lets see how we might be able to help!
Until then, lead well.
One last thing.
We discussed this topic on the latest episode of Disaster Podcaster!
Check it out here:
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